Common Midlife Crisis Questions
Is Midlife Crisis Real?
Yes, it is a very natural process. You can call it adolescence for adults.
The problem with a midlife crisis is that not everyone experiences the change at the same age or in the same way. People experiencing a midlife change are just trying to improve their lives.
The big problem is one person’s improvements are often another person’s problems.
Be aware: if you tell a person they are in a midlife crisis, they will think you are judging them and their choices for life improvement.
Being nonjudgemental is crucial for helping people transform in midlife.
What is Midlife Change?
Midlife is a natural point of life where a person needs to change. All the signs of a person in a midlife crisis are about change! When that change disrupts the order in a person’s life, we call that a midlife crisis.
Humans are very adaptable, and our instincts are wired to encourage that change around 40 years old.
Please note: dismissing a partner’s midlife crisis or pretending it isn’t real will only break your relationship faster.
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When Does Midlife Crisis Happen?
Midlife change happens between the ages of 37 and over. The more independent a person is, the more likely they will have a midlife experience at a younger age.
Does Everyone Go Through a Midlife Crisis?
No. While everyone goes through midlife, not everyone experiences a midlife crisis. In our years of working with midlife crises, we can safely say that only about 20 percent of adults will experience a classic midlife crisis.
Why is Midlife Crisis So Extreme?
Midlife crisis stirs up many of our experiences from when we were younger in life. As a result, some people in midlife crisis are revisiting older traumas and problems.
It isn’t easy to heal trauma and the process can spin around as a result. During the beginning stages of midlife, people usually focus on personal improvements and avoid facing problems.
If you are a partner in midlife, you have to be careful how you help your partner. Never push a person to face their past before they are ready! You don’t want to get associated with a person’s past trauma.
Frequently midlife work includes helping a person through these past experiences. Teachers like Julie and I are essential in this process as we don’t get associated with the past in the same way you would when helping your partner.
After working with Casey, I have accomplished so much, that I could never have imagined. During my wife’s mid-life crisis, I was desperate, full of fear, weak, and alone. Little by little, through his life coaching and relationship teachings, he inspired me for a different way of looking at things. Now I can see the truth there within his sayings. Being patient, getting stronger, being kind to everyone around you, including yourself, has made the nightmare I lived, a unique, graceful experience, that has changed my life. I thank him from my heart and hope that this way of thinking may help other people too, to face the challenges of our lives.
